http://www.themommyjournal.com/archive/unwanted-baggage.php Pregnancy, parenting, and baby advice for first-time mommies. Sat, 31 Dec 2011 18:51:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.themommyjournal.com/archive/unwanted-baggage.php/comment-page-1#comment-14998 Funky Fri, 18 Apr 2008 15:39:04 +0000 http://www.themommyjournal.com/?p=183#comment-14998 I love this post, this is something that is dear to my heart. I went through both my parents and their spouses and all of their extra baggage. I let it run and ruin my life for the longest time. Then one day I reached the conclusion that I have to live with my life, and all of the sudden I couldn't understand why I was letting other people make decisions for me when they weren't the ones who had to deal with the outcome. No one can live my life but me, so I have to be the one who acts and reacts to situations in my life. I like to try to help my friends, at the same time I always tell them that they are the only ones who know what is right for them in their lives and I can only tell them what I would do. Right now in my life I have learned that I can help more by asking questions. When I ask questions that allows the other person to creatively come up with their own solutions and goals. It's hard at first to get out from under other people's baggage but in the end we are the creators of our own lives. Once people realize that, then they can start living the type of life they want. Okay, now I am just rambling. Thank you so much for this post, it addresses something that we all encounter from time to time. I love this post, this is something that is dear to my heart. I went through both my parents and their spouses and all of their extra baggage. I let it run and ruin my life for the longest time. Then one day I reached the conclusion that I have to live with my life, and all of the sudden I couldn’t understand why I was letting other people make decisions for me when they weren’t the ones who had to deal with the outcome. No one can live my life but me, so I have to be the one who acts and reacts to situations in my life. I like to try to help my friends, at the same time I always tell them that they are the only ones who know what is right for them in their lives and I can only tell them what I would do. Right now in my life I have learned that I can help more by asking questions. When I ask questions that allows the other person to creatively come up with their own solutions and goals. It’s hard at first to get out from under other people’s baggage but in the end we are the creators of our own lives. Once people realize that, then they can start living the type of life they want. Okay, now I am just rambling. Thank you so much for this post, it addresses something that we all encounter from time to time.

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